WHY MEN DELAY GETTING MARRIED
Picture this: you’re at a wedding, surrounded by lovebirds and clinking champagne flutes. Everyone whispers, “Isn’t it about time for him?” But the “him” in question, your best friend, groomsman extraordinaire, is still rocking the single life with no ring in sight. You can’t help but wonder, amidst the confetti and happy tears, “What’s holding him back? Why aren’t more men jumping on the marriage bandwagon?”
It’s a question I’ve pondered myself, having navigated the dating world and witnessed countless friends choose different paths. Is it career focus, fear of commitment, or something more complex? Let’s dive into the fascinating world of male perspectives on marriage, and explore the reasons why some men are hitting pause on the “I do.” Buckle up, because this might just challenge your assumptions and offer a surprising glimpse into the modern man’s mind.
1) FEAR (MARRIAGE PHOBIA)
Many bachelors actually fear Marriage.
They fear the financial responsibilities that come with Marriage. spending on her, and then when the kids come, extra demands on him. Local man cannot can. They fear the emotional responsibilities, tell her you love her everyday, take her out on dates, kiss her daily, be responsible and accountable to her, forgive her, it’s all too much for them to handle
While some Men fear Marriage because of the things they’ve heard or seen, maybe their father or a close friend of theirs had a bitter marriage experience
2) THEY DON’T WANT TO LOSE THEIR FREEDOM
They know they may not be able to hang out with the guys on Friday night as before. And they will be expected not to go anywhere without her knowledge.
They know they won’t be be able live carefreely as they were doing before as bachelors and they still value that freedom above all.
3) NO MONEY
Among this category are two types.
✔ The ones who have nothing at all to use in doing wedding, and then running a home after
Even her bride price they can’t afford with their current account balance, so they’re still single or engaged, they are currently working hard and saving money toward their marriage, with plans to quit bachelorhood soon.
✔ The ones who have money, have a good job with a good salary, even accommodation, but they want to be millionaires first, buy car, buy land and build house before they now settle down. (of course this is stupidity.)
4) THEY ARE NOT READY TO QUIT MESSING AROUND (PLAY BOYS)
They are still busy sampling ladies, playing around wiyu Ada, Juliet, Zara, Shade and 20 other ladies. They don’t want Marriage to slow down or hamper their philandering.
5) STILL SEARCHING
This one’s haven’t seen the one yet. Among them are;
Those who honestly haven’t found the bone of their bones and are still searching.
These ones are praying and waiting to hear God. Amongst those who are praying, there are the ones that God hasn’t answered yet, and the ones that God has answered, but they are not understanding.
Those who have seen, plenty ladies around them, but they are too picky, forgetting that nobody is perfect, physically and character wise, so they are still searching for the perfect one. We wish them luck.
6) SPIRITUAL PROBLEM
Yup, some guys are always having Issues finding and sustaining a relationship, anyone they propose to ends up leaving them no matter how nice they are to her, something must happen to scatter their relationship.
Either due to sins they committed or sins they inherited. These ones need to come to God, get saved and set free.
7) THE MARRIED BACHELORS (COHABITERS)
These ones aren’t married, but their girlfriend/fiancé lives with them, she cooks, sweeps, washes, she even gives him 24/7.
So he sees no reason to get married, some eventually even start having kids, yet no bride price paid, and no marriage in sight for the poor lady.
FAQS
What makes a man delay marriage?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but here are some common reasons:
- Focusing on personal goals: Career ambitions, pursuing hobbies, traveling the world, or achieving financial independence can take priority.
- Fear of commitment: Marriage is a big step, and some men might hesitate due to anxieties about responsibility, change, or potential conflicts.
- Unsure about finding the “right” partner: High standards, past relationship experiences, or a desire for emotional compatibility can lead to a longer search.
- Changing societal views: Marriage isn’t seen as the only path to happiness, and alternative relationship models are gaining acceptance.
- Economic factors: The financial burden of weddings and supporting a family can deter some men, especially in uncertain economic times.
- Personal baggage: Unresolved emotional issues, family dynamics, or religious beliefs can influence marriage decisions.
Why are men getting married late?
Several factors contribute to this trend:
- Increased education and career aspirations: Many men pursue higher education and establish careers later in life, delaying marriage.
- Shifting social norms: Stigma towards late marriage has decreased, creating more freedom for personal timing.
- Focus on individual growth: Prioritizing personal development and self-discovery before settling down is increasingly common.
- Economic and housing challenges: Affordability issues and student loan debt can make waiting more practical.
- Desire for a strong foundation: Men may seek stronger financial and emotional stability before taking on marriage’s responsibilities.
Why do some men take long to get married?
It’s crucial to remember that every individual is different. Some men might:
- Have complex relationship histories: Healing from past heartbreak or navigating blended families can take time.
- Be highly selective: Having specific partner qualities they’re unwilling to compromise on can lengthen the search.
- Prioritize different life experiences: Focusing on travel, adventure, or personal projects before settling down.
- Face external pressures: Societal expectations, family influence, or cultural norms can add complexity to the decision.
- Have emotional or psychological roadblocks: Unresolved issues like fear of intimacy or communication challenges may need addressing.
What to do if he won’t marry you?
Open communication is key. Consider:
- Having an honest conversation: Discuss your desires and understand his perspective without pressure or ultimatums.
- Exploring underlying reasons: If he expresses hesitation, delve into the why without judgment.
- Focusing on the relationship: Build a strong foundation of trust, communication, and shared values.
- Seeking professional guidance: Individual or couples therapy can provide tools for healthy communication and understanding.
- Recognizing your values: Assess if your needs and timelines align with his, and be prepared to respect different goals.
Remember, there’s no single answer or guarantee in relationships. Communication, understanding, and respecting individual choices are crucial for navigating marriage decisions together.